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Joel | Write Awareness's avatar

Love the Bible verse from this article. Letting go of the past is one of the most difficult (and necessary) skills to learn.

Vic Holtreman's avatar

It really is. It can be incredibly difficult to truly let go.

Erik's avatar

Be sure to not hold onto the current state either or you will have to relearn the lesson

Vic Holtreman's avatar

Well I’ve already learned what I was missing and I’ve entered this marriage as a different man.

The Innovation Attorney's avatar

I learned a lot as a single Dad at 32. I wouldn’t trade my time with my kids for the world.

Hayes Carrera's avatar

One of my favorites you put together.

I didn’t know where the silverware draw was in my house for years…

Vic Holtreman's avatar

Ha, I’m glad you could relate. 😁

Albert Cory's avatar

But you got married again, Vic. To me, that casts a lot of doubt on the "I'm OK with being alone" statement. It was an unwilling, temporary adaptation.

Vic Holtreman's avatar

I can see how you’d think that, Albert, for sure. But there’s a difference between being OK with being alone and wanting to be alone.

I wasn’t out on the hunt for the next woman and it wasn’t unwilling. I knew I could find someone if I wanted to. It was just right time, right place (I think God brought us together, TBH), and she is so great I would have been an idiot to not marry her.

As a friend of mine told me the first time he met her: “I’m going to give you the same advice a good friend gave me when I met your sister: ‘Don’t f*ck this up.’” :)

The Timeless Traveler's avatar

A lot of people probably don’t realize how much of their identity is tied to a role until the role disappears.

Vic Holtreman's avatar

Men in particular.

Greg Burch's avatar

Been there - more than once. You’re pretty spot on. Glad you discovered and rediscovered. 👊🏼👍🏼

Vic Holtreman's avatar

Thanks. I know I’m not alone. I wrote for guys who think they ARE alone.