I'm glad you got something out of this. More and more it's becoming apparent to me that I need to write to let fellow men know that they are not the only ones going through whatever they're going through - and that they can come out the other side.
I'm about to turn 59 and happily married. However, I relate to this story because of the transformation you made. I'm in the process of the changing my life through building a new career as an entreprenuer after 25+ years in corporate.
It's new, disorienting, and frustrating at times, but I know I'll make it to other side.
And now you have so much more than spatulas (too many, babe????) and can openers. You have a wife who loves you fiercely. You are not alone, even when you are by yourself.
It's an adventure to see how the Lord is using Isaiah 43: 18,19 to show us how He is
"Doing a NEW thing!"
PS- Whatever it cost to learn, the steak dividends are paying off beautifully, Vic. Dinner at 6:00? I'll have the Cabernet on standby.
I love this article because it’s relevant to everyone. I felt this way being single as my last child left university and moved abroad. I had lots of girlfriends to hang out with, but as you mentioned, everyone has their own lives and often that leaves us at home, trying to find relevance in almost anything to simply not feel lonely.
I even refused to get a cat because of the cliché of the single cat lady.
Learning to love myself and enjoying being with myself, enjoying my own company, was the major step toward healing my heart.
The verse from Isaiah is beautiful,
And writing and reaching out to those who are in that space of tender loneliness, ironically, the place you could write about only because you experienced it, is gorgeous. What a beautiful life you have created! Cheers!
Love this--especially the part where you're okay on your own. I had divorced in my early 40's and just shrugged and thought, "okay, didn't have kids, how can I make my life meaningful?" I found ways with little intention of getting remarried.
I met someone with the same outlook--we didn't need a placeholder or had a hole to fill.
This is what brought us together -- WANTING to be with one another, not NEEDING. It's the best relationship I could imagine. Almost 9 years now, and I got the bonus of being a stepdad.
I honestly don't think it would have happened if I felt like I needed someone else to complete my life.
When you truly let go (you can't fake it) and you're okay with yourself--it seems to bring the right people to you.
Vic, we met in an electronic setting and had the chance to meet up in Miami. This post hits hard. In many ways, most of it, I relate.
One share. Furnished places. They can be completely corporate. Barren in feeling. Rigid. It doesn’t have the warmth of a home. A true home.
I’m in this phase..right now.
Thanks for sharing your story, publicly. It helps to see “I’m not the only one..”
Hey Robert, great to hear from you, man.
I'm glad you got something out of this. More and more it's becoming apparent to me that I need to write to let fellow men know that they are not the only ones going through whatever they're going through - and that they can come out the other side.
yes lots of quiet time, especially evenings
I'm about to turn 59 and happily married. However, I relate to this story because of the transformation you made. I'm in the process of the changing my life through building a new career as an entreprenuer after 25+ years in corporate.
It's new, disorienting, and frustrating at times, but I know I'll make it to other side.
Thanks for the encouragement.
You’re very welcome. I love getting replied like yours, Mantel.
And now you have so much more than spatulas (too many, babe????) and can openers. You have a wife who loves you fiercely. You are not alone, even when you are by yourself.
It's an adventure to see how the Lord is using Isaiah 43: 18,19 to show us how He is
"Doing a NEW thing!"
PS- Whatever it cost to learn, the steak dividends are paying off beautifully, Vic. Dinner at 6:00? I'll have the Cabernet on standby.
I love this article because it’s relevant to everyone. I felt this way being single as my last child left university and moved abroad. I had lots of girlfriends to hang out with, but as you mentioned, everyone has their own lives and often that leaves us at home, trying to find relevance in almost anything to simply not feel lonely.
I even refused to get a cat because of the cliché of the single cat lady.
Learning to love myself and enjoying being with myself, enjoying my own company, was the major step toward healing my heart.
The verse from Isaiah is beautiful,
And writing and reaching out to those who are in that space of tender loneliness, ironically, the place you could write about only because you experienced it, is gorgeous. What a beautiful life you have created! Cheers!
Thank you SO much, you’re very kind. I’m so glad it made an impact on you.
Love this--especially the part where you're okay on your own. I had divorced in my early 40's and just shrugged and thought, "okay, didn't have kids, how can I make my life meaningful?" I found ways with little intention of getting remarried.
I met someone with the same outlook--we didn't need a placeholder or had a hole to fill.
This is what brought us together -- WANTING to be with one another, not NEEDING. It's the best relationship I could imagine. Almost 9 years now, and I got the bonus of being a stepdad.
I honestly don't think it would have happened if I felt like I needed someone else to complete my life.
When you truly let go (you can't fake it) and you're okay with yourself--it seems to bring the right people to you.
That's a great story, and yes, that was my experience as well.